Dating as a Parent - How to make it Right
Is not like you are tired of taking care of your child alone, but you do feel the need to share what happened during the day with someone. A child is great in every home, since they always manage to brighten the atmosphere, still, you have moments when you wish to tell someone about your worries, have a glass of wine and chat late in the evening. So you decided to try and find the right person to bring in your, and your child’s, life. That’s just great, although you may have some issues in knowing where to start and how to do it right. Yes, we know, it’s been a while since you went on a date. Here is some advice that will help you handle dates properly.
Finding a place to meet people
Probably this issue is the hardest to start with. You feel like being disconnected from the rest of the world, not knowing where to meet people. You also know that the times when you went out to pubs and clubs to find someone are long gone. So where to meet people, since the kindergarten doesn’t look like a suitable place? Places that are middle grounds for both adults and children are a great place where you can find people or even other single parents. Museums, parks, or at the market are places where you can take your child and increase chances to meet someone as well. You can also try out online dating sites since they are rather discreet, and you can decide whether to go out on a date or not. ( Read also: Dating Ideas for Single Parents )
Managing your time
Whether you are using the lack of time as an excuse or you are busy, if you don’t make a place in your schedule for romance and love, then you won’t have it. It’s as simple as that. You need to have the willpower to change something in your schedule and make some time for a date. It is advisable to schedule your date when you do have time, and not meet your partner while carrying an agenda or constantly looking at your watch. You will make him, or her feel like you’re in a rush, or the date is more a business meeting or an interview. You can do it when your child is at the other parent, grandparents, or you can simply opt for a babysitter.
Should I mention the fact that I have a child?
Yes, you definitely should. (not if you're members on our site of course ! ;) You may wish to have an honest and sincere relationship, and not one based on lies. When talking about each other, do mention you have a child, as you will see if that person is willing to take the challenge or not. It is better to find out about this aspect in the beginning, rather than later when you might be emotionally involved.
Remembering how to go on dates
Single parents feel like an eternity passed since they went out on a date. But there aren’t any rules when it comes to dating. Just be yourself and enjoy the moment. Feeling nervous, having a gap in the stomach or sweaty palms is normal, showing that you are alive, and you do have human feelings. So don’t consider these aspects harmful. Think about your accomplishments, about the fact that you raise a child, you have a job, and your bills are paid. It should give you some self-confidence.